he hit me
and it felt like a kiss.
he hit me
but it didn't hurt me.
he couldn't stand to hear me say
that i'd been with someone new,
and when i told him i had been untrue
he hit me
and it felt like a kiss.
he hit me
and i knew he loved me.
if he didn't care for me
i could have never made him mad
but he hit me,
and I was glad.
yes, he hit me
and it felt like a kiss.
he hit me
and I knew I loved him.
and then he took me in his arms
with all the tenderness there is,
and when he kissed me,
he made me his.
Grizzly Bear: He Hit Me
Loki - this post and the last are awash with feelings that are about connection and love. You seem to yearn for these feelings yourself and I hope greatly you will discover some man out there to begin to form some strong emotional connection to that has some of the attributes of love. I am not sure we married men want to have love of a man take a part of our hearts over, yet we still have these images of intimacy and caring and emotional connection that look a lot like love. Coin us a word for us will you, show us how to get close to love without falling in love.
ReplyDeleteBoy, I don't know about this poem. Is it difference because we're guys and it's not about a man and a woman??
ReplyDeleteI know about "he hit me". First it was because I did something, or maybe a way to say I love you. Eventually it was just for his pleasure in hitting me, beating me to a bloody pulp with reason and without warning.
ReplyDeleteI know now that "he hit me" is never about love. It's about power over another man, it's about taking out their frustration, it's about not talking or communicating. "he hit me" is never about love.
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ReplyDeleteThis is a song by Grizzly Bear, not my words and for me it represents the suddenness of love and rejection, acceptance, the hurt of unrequited love and the power of acceptance when you know deep in your heart something isn't right. I am in no way endorsing abusive behavior.
Didn't see the poem as suggesting something wrong; but I do see now that's there. Anyways, wasn't commenting on YOUR view of poem,just the poem.
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